Borders

Barbed_Wire_Fence_by_BrimeIF YOU CROSS THE NORTH KOREAN BORDER ILLEGALLY, YOU GET 12 YEARS HARD LABOR.

IF YOU CROSS THE IRANIAN BORDER ILLEGALLY, YOU ARE DETAINED INDEFINITELY.

IF YOU CROSS THE AFGHAN BORDER ILLEGALLY, YOU GET SHOT.

IF YOU CROSS THE SAUDI ARABIAN BORDER ILLEGALLY, YOU WILL BE JAILED.

IF YOU CROSS THE CHINESE BORDER ILLEGALLY, YOU MAY NEVER BE HEARD FROM AGAIN.

IF YOU CROSS THE VENEZUELAN BORDER ILLEGALLY, YOU WILL BE BRANDED A SPY AND YOUR FATE WILL BE SEALED.

IF YOU CROSS THE CUBAN BORDER ILLEGALLY, YOU WILL BE THROWN INTO POLITICAL PRISON TO ROT.

Those are examples of borders in countries and, as you can see, they come with some very harsh punishment if crossed. It’s so easy to observe the lack of moral borders in today’s society. Everywhere you turn there is someone crossing their own broken boundary and crossing into a person’s boundary.

Have you ever witnessed someone who’s moral boundary concerning greed is askew? There are people who go to great lengths to cheat or steal from another. What about cheating someone out of money that they are owed? What about holding back when you know someone needs help, but you’re too stingy to give. Greed is one of the primary reasons for murder. The love of the dollar has been the cause of untold heartaches! We all know at least one person like that and greed can cause you heart to grow cold and hard. Their boundary is broken by the desire to have more and more and chase the false security of monetary gain.

1 Timothy 6:10 For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs. 

What about the moral boundary of association? There are clearly relationships and situations where we should never intermingle. There is a law called “guilt by association” and that can also be a moral law. The people we choose to spend our time with can make or break us. How do we stay within our boundary and still minister to the lost? Well, we don’t have to participate in their behaviors or even associate with them to show them love. So many people can get dragged down by letting someone with no boundaries influence their life. I choose not to hang out with drug addicts or criminals or shady characters. This doesn’t mean I won’t buy a drug addict lunch, I’ve done that many times. I’ve offered temporary housing and many hours of counseling, but I’m not going to go into their circle. Witness and love in a safe place as God doesn’t expect us to be in the midst of their environment. How about hanging out with a gossip or backbiter? Maybe the person that constantly stirs trouble? Always, guard your boundary concerning these people because you are what you associate with in the eyes of others and you also just might start behaving like them too! We are called to be a light in a dark world, but that doesn’t make our soul more valuable to God than the drug addict or prostitute or gossip, it calls us to live to a higher standard.

1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”

Then there’s the adultery that is rampant in our society. Taking something that doesn’t belong to you can include someone’s wife or husband. I can speak about this not as an observer, but as a participant from both ends. I’ve caused the pain to someone else and I’ve felt the pain from another. I made a decision a long time ago that I would never again be a part of coming between a man and his wife. My secret wasn’t revealed until 15 long years after the affair, but I still paid the consequences by seeing someone I love more than life hurt and broken by my actions. There are always consequences. I’ve felt the hurt of having been betrayed as well. Men and women just decide that they want relations with someone and it doesn’t bother them that what they want belongs to someone else. Where is the moral boundary? What makes someone feel like it’s OK to take another man’s wife? Why does that wife think it’s OK to allow it or be the instigator? You are taking something that doesn’t belong to you. Their marriage vows and commitment made before God mean nothing. There is no moral line to cross, it doesn’t exist. Because of lust, compulsion, self-gratification, and lack of moral compass, some choose to pull up a seat and feast at the table of destruction that is adultery. Does he or she have children that could be affected? Their lives and home torn apart so the parent can satisfy a carnal self-serving need? It’ll be alright, they are kids and they will adjust. The wife has been unhappy and neglected by her husband. Well, then what you’re doing isn’t wrong because he should be attending to her needs. There are many excuses, (and that’s all they are), that can be made to soothe the conscience or justify the behavior, but none will satisfy God. Broken homes do affect children. Adultery, no matter which end you’re on, is devastating, to the husband or wife, the children, the home. It is a betrayal of trust, vows, security, love, and happiness. A betrayal to the institution of marriage that God has created and blessed.

Proverbs 6:32 He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself.

Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

Lack of moral borders comes with consequences. God gave us commandments to help us stay in the straight and narrow. They weren’t options, they were commandments. I look back on my own life and some of the consequences I’ve paid for my sins and I marvel at how I could have been spared heartache, for myself and people in my life, if I’d just obeyed God’s commandments. If you could parallel the difference in a lifelong Christian’s life and a sinner’s life and what each had suffered over decisions made in life, I’m sure the one who was obedient to God would have a lot less regrets and misery. God wants us to choose wisely and obey Him because as our father, he really does know what’s best for us and He wants to shield us and protect us from hurting ourselves. I don’t believe in karma, I believe in sin consequences. The closer we try to live to God the stronger our moral boundary becomes. Protect it, guard it, and strengthen it in His word because there is a world of people out there with no boundary that’s just waiting to penetrate yours.

1 Peter 5:8 Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

KK

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2 thoughts on “Borders

  1. Thank you for this blog K.K. I certainly agree that we need to have firm Scriptural moral boundaries. We can minister to those who are living a lifestyle that does not line up with Scripture, but we do not have to make them our best friends. There is a fine line between spending time with someone and “associating” with them. Jesus was constantly criticized for spending time with people the church leaders believed were essentially untouchables. He was giving them love, compassion, and understanding. However, He did not participate in their life choices along with them. We must be careful and choose the “fine line” boundaries prayerfully {asking God’s wisdom for how we are to proceed} so that we do not throw out the baby with the bath water in the name of “guilt by association”. Other boundaries are clear-cut, such as your example of adultery.

    1. Agreed. We should never turn away from someone because of what may be going on in their lives or because of poor choices on their part, but we can’t take the chance of our own borders being crossed in the process. Fine line indeed!

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