What Is Love

Images of Will Farrell and Chris Kattan bobbing their head to this song flood my mind.  This always makes me laugh.  I found out this was a one-hit-wonder for the singer/song writer of this popular 80’s song.  I guess he never figured it out.  So, what IS love?  Many seek to find it in vacant items and empty promises.  I am surrounded on a daily basis by people longing to feel loved, to feel secure, and to feel peace.  They have looked at the bottom of a bottle, as many songs say, or IV drugs into their arms.  They’ve snorted their college degrees and careers away, spent billions of dollars on pornography or casino’s, all for that feeling.  Women (and men) are abused on a regular basis by their spouses who claim to love them.  The abuse continues, escalates even beyond just words to physical abuse, the cops are called, and yet they stay desiring to feel love and to be loved.   But beware! The Bible says our hearts are deceiving.  “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” (Jer 17:9).  You cannot trust your own feelings sometimes, but you can trust Jesus. But what is love?  Dictionary.com says:

1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.

2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.

3. sexual passion or desire.

4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person;sweetheart.


So we look to anything to feel profoundly tender, if only for a fleeting moment, feeling warm personal attachment, sexual passion, or endearment. Unfortunately the English term has washed out the many meanings and intricate details of love. In English we use the exact same word for the desire of spaghetti as we do our children.   What does the Bible say about love?  I thought I knew what love was.  I thought love was about feeling protected.  As a teenager, in a vulnerable state, I found someone who offered protection.  Protection = Love, right?  After a few months of feeling so protected that I could no longer carry on social or familial relationships, I could not eat because I would get fat, I could not have the checkbook, and I could not go to school to get an education, all for the sake of protection, God showed me what love is.  So does protection = love?  I found my answer one day as I was reading the Bible. See I learned that God is a God of order and He described love perfectly, in order in I Corinthians 13.  Are you ready for this order?  Pay close attention!!!! 


  1. Is patient
  2. Is kind
  3. Does not envy
  4. Does not boast
  5. Is not proud
  6. Does not dishonor others
  7. Is not self-seeking
  8. Is not easily angered
  9. It does not keep records of wrongs
  10. Does not delight in evil
  11. Rejoices in truth
  12. Always protects
  13. Always trusts
  14. Always Hopes
  15. Always perseveres
  16. Never Fails


So, I was not wrong in believing that love protects.  It does – always.  However, it is number 12 on the list for a reason!! Brothers and sisters, if you love, are you loving in this order?  If you are in a relationship are you being loved in this order?  Is your endless search for love consistent with this perfect description of love?  Jesus is love.  Jesus is patient, kind, He does not envy, boast, and is never prideful.  Jesus never dishonored anybody, He was never self-seeking, He is not easily angered, He keeps no records of wrongs, He does not delight in evil, but rejoices with us in Truth.  He always protects.  In Him we have trust, hope, and perseverance.  Jesus never fails.  He is all you need.  Seek Him first, seek His love first.  I pray you reevaluate your ideals of love and grow in His promises today.

In Christ’s Love,



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  1. Thanks for this post, Sue! I’ve found that many times we mistake the parts of loving actions for love itself. Our ideas about what love is seem to depend on the needs produced by our backgrounds, warping our conceptions about the true nature of love. As humans, we tend to take one or two facets of something and erroneously define its totality through the filter of those facets.

    The Word tells us that GOD is love. All His actions are loving actions. Moreover, He is the sum and substance of love, its very quintessence. Any time someone expresses true love, even if they are an unbeliever, they are expressing God Himself, because nothing and no one apart from God is real love.

    While I’m not sure I agree that love has to follow a regimented order, I do believe that any action which expresses love will not violate any of the other descriptive parts laid out in Corinthians 13. This means that if someone is expressing the protective side of real love, it will also express patience, forgiveness, and forbearance, etc.

    Thanks for challenging and encouraging us to think about this in our walk with God and our brothers and sisters!

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